There’s a great quote from a movie that says “I wish there was a way to know that we are in the good old times” and I love that. It makes me wonder though, were the good old times really that good when we were in them, or were they just the same as right now with a romantic story attached to it? Maybe both…
The duality of truth.
We tend to think of truth as always being universal. Something so specific and certain that only an online troll could disagree with. Truth is, for so many a guiding “north star”.
Robin Hood is such a great example of how I think we confuse moral ethics with truth.
Robin Hood stole from the rich and gave to the poor. In this story, a hero to so many - true.
Robin Hood stole from the rich and gave to the poor. In this story, a thief to so many - also true.
Both sides, both perspectives at the same time are true and both sides valid. The difficulty arises, I think, when we trip and think that our perspective is the only truth.
The person who benefited from Robin Hood’s thievery had valid feelings of happiness or relief, the person who lost something to Robin Hood’s thievery had valid feelings of loss or frustration. If both things are true I think we have two options:
1.My truth versus your truth which = dysfunction/hostility
2. My truth plus your truth = learning & growth
My reseach currently is focussed on what those in the therepeutic or helping spaces can learn from a pro-suicide website/online community.
When first looking through these spaces a couple of years ago, I couldn’t believe it existed. A place offering suicide method advice to people wanting to end their lives had to be evil. Much of it was at the very least extremely immoral by most standards.
What I found was this space also offered genuinely compassionate responses and empathy to other people seeking a place to vent without fear of reprocussion or judgement.
Would I consider this website at times toxic and highly dangerous? Absolutely. Do I believe that this website has likely influenced people’s decision to die? Yes.
Would I accept that individuals on this website have offered genuiune connection and empathetic understanding to others? Absolutely. Do I believe that this website likely influenced people’s decision to live? Yes.
I think it’s fair to say that this website has likely caused turmoil and pain beyond measure for loved ones left behind. From reading user posts it would appear that at times it might be the only thing keeping someone alive. Both things at the same time true.
There’s two sides to every story and I would go so far as to say there are two sides to every truth. If you look or listen hard enough for it, it’s there.
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